True Love

JLo shares her ‘True Love’ secrets!

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Who comes to mind when say these words? Icon, Latina, singer, actress, fashion designer, and NY. If you thought of JENNIFER LOPEZ, you are correct. As if this busy diva doesn’t have enough on her plate, we can now add author to that list.

Currently in promotion of her autobiography, ‘True Love’, Jlo shares her most deepest emotions with her intense relationships with Marc, Ben and a others. JLo talked about her breakup with actor Ben Affleck which at that time were known to us as ‘Beniffer’. During that time she maintained a relationship for 10 years with Grammy Winning superstar, Marc Anthony.

“Ben was probably my first great unrequited love, and having one of my best friends Marc , whom I had known for years, and who in fact I loved and I had chemistry with, come to my life and say ‘ I’m here!'” says Jlo

“What we need to know is that no one can save you or cure you . Only you can do that for you, I’m open to love but now think it’s better to be alone for a minute to learn more about me .” says this NYrican.

In addition to Affleck , and Marc Anthony , Jenny from the block past relationships with Cuban model and actor, Ojani Noa , Hip Hop Artist and business entrepreneur, Diddy and dancer/choreographer, Cris Judd, Marc Anthony and Casper Smart. All relationships that she learned from and she truly has no regrets. After all you can’t control who you fall in love with right?

“Someone could look at my life from the outside and think that everything was wonderful. She had a husband and two beautiful children. It was on ‘Idol ‘ and my single ‘ On The Floor’ was in the No. 1 position worldwide. But what people did not know was that my life was not happy. My relationship was falling apart and I was scared , “he says .
“I do not think I can stick with Marc ” says Jlo.

“When things do not work and you are not trying the way you want them to treat you , stop and analyze things because it’s not anyone’s fault , but yours ,” reflects on ‘True Love’

Jen’s autobiography depicts her human side. Her heartfelt emotional side. The one that cries, loves, is angry. The one that is on her sofa with fleece wrapped around her and her family wiping her tears of the heartache of the breakups. Which to her defense, we all do it. We all have our ‘He’s The One!’ moments then we come to realize he’s not. Whether it was a betrayal or just an illusion of an emotion that was never there.

Regardless it hurts. And not just us, it hurts the other party involved as well. We all make mistakes. We all have regrets. But one thing we always fail to remember is that when going into a relationship, we should start as who we are, not who we assume the interested party wants us to be. Because at the end of the day, mix emotions and illusions is why the myth of ‘the good part of the relationship is the first 3 month’s’ is recycled. Because we are not who we really are. It not only confuses them, it confuses you as well and at the end we suffer a broken heart not because they are not the one but because we lost more then just a future mate, we lost a friend.

I can’t wait to pick up this book. Its definitely one that most of us can relate too. Not only would it be a great learning experience but a portion of the funds will go to The Lopez Family Foundation, founded in the interest of the health and welfare of women and children.

3 Tips for Finding True Love Any Time of the Year

By: Shay Dawkins

So many people go searching for their true love in nightclubs, singles clubs, through online dating sites and among friends of friends. The truth is, finding true love starts right in your own home – or, more accurately, in your own heart.

Before you can find true love in a relationship, you must find it within yourself.

Here are three simple ways to attain true love for you, yourself, and your life as a whole. You’ll be amazed at how quickly romantic love will follow.

• Be thankful for everything (including your mistakes). Learn to be thankful for the good things in your life. That will help you appreciate all the small things and give you a happier, positive outlook (which, by the way, is very attractive.) Be thankful for your mistakes, too. Everything in your life, both the triumphs and the stumbles, shape us as people. Mistakes are valuable learning experiences and, when viewed as such and appreciated, regrets and bitterness of yesterday will fade away. Peace and love will enter in to your life immediately!

• Forgive others so that you can forgive yourself. Forgiving is as much for you as  it is for the person who did you wrong. For starters, when you can forgive others, you can forgive yourself. Some of us are harder on ourselves than anyone else would ever be. We need to be as forgiving of our own faults and misdeeds as we are other people’s. Holding onto anger and resentment, whether it’s directed at someone else or ourselves, robs us of opportunities for joy. Truly forgive whoever’s hurt you – you don’t have to like them! – and fully experience happiness.

• Find enjoyment and satisfaction in every day. Strive to find the happiness in your average, workaday life. For most of us, a typical Friday will be a much happier day than a typical Monday, but live each average Monday to its fullest as you would live each fun Friday to the fullest!  If you strive to live in love each day, then you will have no regrets. There are many more average days than holidays and vacations – don’t waste them! Find satisfaction in your work, enjoy the process of doing a good job and learning new skills, and every day will be an abundance of joy.

In my book, The Good News: How Revealing Delusions In Christianity Will Bring Peace To All (www.thegoodnewsbook.com), I lay out the numerous biblical instructions to love, forgive and be grateful. If we each apply these simple teachings to our own lives, no matter what our religion, we’ll create a happier world.

To both the people with a special someone and those without – be thankful. Love and happiness come from within, not from another person. We all have something to celebrate, not only at Valentine’s Day but all year long.

About Shay Dawkins

Shay Dawkins is a Tuscaloosa, Alabama, businessman who grew up in Baptist and Pentecostal churches. His observances about how Christianity can be divisive despite being based on one book led to his analysis of the Bible. Check out his YouTube video, “Why It Should Be About Love, Not Religion.”

Searching for Love via your own Website

by: John Rodriguez

When trying to find love in the real world maybe even with the help of online-dating seemed to fail him, 38-year-old Paul Gutierrez from Illinois is taking matters to find love into his own hands and pockets. Opening a website entitled, Can Anyone Find Me A Wife, Paul—or to some ‘Handsome Paul’—is offering up half of his annual income to anyone who can help him find that special someone so he can make her his wife.

Going online and creating his own “search for love” website, Handsome Paul posts why single women should love. There are a total of 38 reasons why the opposite sex should love him. Along with these reasons, Handsome Paul has gathered and posted for the world a collection of awkward stories about his quest into finding his one true love, a quest which has so far failed.

His quest for love has led Handsome Paul to numerous dating websites, and unfortunately no hits came of them. He even browsed though the options of ordering a bride via mail, which also didn’t pan out since the bride-to-be escaped through a window during the interview. On his website, Handsome Paul declares himself a hopeless romantic who just happens to have bad luck when it comes to find loving. Despite his big heart, Handsome Paul believes his bad luck is attributed to bad skin, a not so favorable body, and a lack of money.

When describing how he viewed his potential to one day tying the knot, Handsome Paul proclaims on his site that, “it would be a real-life beauty and the beast marriage…Minus the fact I’m not a wavy-haired prince with a castle and servants…More like a balding drifter with a future mobile home and hamsters.” Handsome Paul also adds that if a lucky girl was to come his way, she can expect to be his very first girlfriend, “I’ve never had a girlfriend in my life…Ever…though I thought I did once…that is until her boyfriend showed up.”

“Most people probably think I’m an epic loser for trying to find a wife like this, not to mention, I don’t have much to offer a woman in regards to money, looks or a career. However, I am very grateful for what I do have and consider myself to be one of the luckiest people alive!” Although he has a not so savvy love life, Handsome Paul does have a hopeful outlook on his life and the fact that he will one day find the right one. Here’s to you Handsome Paul, may your sweet personality bring you someone soon.