Relationship Advice Page “Ask Judy” by On-Air Personality & Freestyle Artist Judy Torres
I am a professional woman. I am a corporate attorney. Lately, the men I have been dating don’t seem to want to commit. They seem as if they are all about their careers.
I am considering dating outside of the white collar world and looking into dating blue collar men. But, I am afraid that we may not connect and I hardly meet any, due to my line of work. Please enlighten me?
Lonely Latina from Jersey
Dear Lonely Latina from Jersey,
To become a corporate attorney a LOT of work was required and serious commitment. That means you take all you do in life very seriously—so why wouldn’t you want a wonderful hardworking man who is willing to commit.
Truth be told, I believe men are men, whether they are white collar or blue collar doesn’t make a difference.
There are people who WANT to commit, some who are not ready just yet, and some who simply WON’T. You just have to find one who wants to take their relationship with you seriously.
There’s nothing wrong with a man who is all about career—but that’s not what you want. If you are considering dating outside of the white collar spectrum, there is nothing wrong with that either—sometimes it’s good to step outside the box of familiarity.
Look at celebrities who date other celebrities—don’t necessarily work, right? But sometimes they will date the “everyday guy” and the relationship finds itself in marriage which lasts for many years.
In my own life, as a singer & radio personality, I have found it to be a VERY good thing to date those outside of the sometimes messy music industry. My current boyfriend of a year-and-a-half is a carpenter, and makes an interesting mix.
I have a feeling that you just need to spread your wings, and try some new places, different surroundings, and just be open to the possibilities.
Most men will let you know right away if they are looking for something serious or not. You should know by the third month of dating whether this is going to be more serious or not.
A very good piece of advice is to LISTEN to what a man says within the first half-hour you meet. If he says things like, “Well, I’m really busy right now,” or “I am just looking to have a good time right now,” run!! Men tell the truth, it’s just, that as women, we don’t listen all the time.
So, open your heart, open your mind, open your horizons and begin to tell yourself that you are deserving of a good man who wants to truly commit to you.
Make a list of what you want and what you will not tolerate and stick to it. I believe that you draw to yourself exactly what you believe. So begin thinking and saying that you know he’s out there, and he will come! Good luck!
About Judy Torres
A motivated and dedicated artist and professional, Judy Torres has had a singing career spanning over three decades. Honored with the title the Queen of Freestyle by her fans, she has released two studio albums: Love Story and My Soul on Profile Records, resulting in numerous hit singles on radio stations nationwide, including No Reason To Cry, Come Into My Arms, Love You Will You Love Me, Love Story, Please Stay Tonight, Every Little Lie, and I Love You For All Seasons. Judy has also performed in world-famous arenas such as Radio City Music Hall and Madison Square Garden. Torres has shared stages with musical icons, including Gladys Knight and Tito Puente. For over two decades, she has been a popular iHeart Media radio personality on NY’s 103.5 FM, WKTU. Visit Judy’s website.